Thanks to the generous support of Proctor and Gamble's Live, Learn and Thrive Program and donors like you we were able to produce video examples of our approach in action. We've found these clips to be very helpful to folks like you interested in learning the model. They depict conversations between parents and their kids over common household problems / triggers such as homework, clothing choices, TV or computer time, curfew and teeth brushing. While many of these issues could be struggles in your family as well, it is really the process that we hope the clips demonstrate.

Before viewing the videos we suggest you read about some of the Basics of the model here on our site first. But you'll get the most out of the clips if you familiarize yourself a bit more with the approach before watching. We'd suggest you listen to a podcast or perhaps do some extra reading - both which you can find in the Resources section. Once you are familiar with the basics you'll know what we mean when we refer to what we call the three "Plans" - Plan A, Plan B and Plan C. See if you can guess which Plan this first video shows:



If you guessed Plan A, you're right! The father was imposing his will which of course is the most common adult response to kids not doing what we want them to do or doing something we don't want them to do. And this video demonstrates some of the many problems with Plan A: the problem wasn't solved, the parent's expectations weren't met, the challenging behavior will likely recur, the child's concerns were disregarded, and the relationship certainly was not enhanced! How do we know it was Plan A? Because the solution was certainly not mutually satisfactory. Although this child did not react terribly to Plan A here, many of you know how imposing your will like this can set in motion much more serious things than noncompliance like screaming, swearing, hitting and other volatile behavior. This is a risk we run when we use Plan A, and Plan A is Plan A whether its delivered soft and sweet or aggressively!

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