Check out this great article from Dan Siegel whose work resonates with ours, He presents a neurobiological argument for an alternative to time-out. Trouble is most of us parents would love to do something else … but don’t know what. This is especially true in the heat of the moment when the child is likely not the only one getting dysregulated and having a hard time thinking straight! Dysregulation is contagious and we parents do well if we can, but we too can get awfully dysregulated quickly in the face of our child’s meltdowns.
The good news? The ingredients of Plan B provide a simple and clear stricture for what to do and say during a “time-in.” And in the heat of the moment reassurance and reflective listening are your best bet to help regulate your child so that they will be available for a teachable moment.